{"id":248,"date":"2020-03-14T09:46:53","date_gmt":"2020-03-14T09:46:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jeshua.net\/lv\/wp\/?p=248"},"modified":"2020-03-14T09:46:53","modified_gmt":"2020-03-14T09:46:53","slug":"milestibas-attiecibas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jeshua.net\/lv\/cenelingi\/cauri-vartiem\/milestibas-attiecibas\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u012blest\u012bbas Attiec\u012bbas"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong><em>Pamelas \u010denelings ar Je\u0161ua<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Angliski tulkoju\u0161i Marija Baesa un Franks Tehans<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Es esmu Je\u0161ua. Es visus j\u016bs sirsn\u012bgi sveicu. Es ar pilnu sirdi esmu \u0161eit. Es v\u0113los dal\u012bties ar jums, man j\u016bs esat br\u0101\u013ci un m\u0101sas, un es j\u016btu dzi\u013cu radniec\u012bbu ar jums. Es neesmu ne liel\u0101ks, ne augst\u0101ks par jums, m\u0113s esam viens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M\u0113s kop\u012bgi s\u0101k\u0101m st\u0101d\u012bt Kristus ener\u0123ijas s\u0113klu uz Zemes, s\u0113klu, kas laika gait\u0101 l\u0113n\u0101m aug un uzzied k\u0101 piln\u012bgi nobriedis zieds. \u0160is laiks uz Zemes ir, lai pabeigtu \u0161o ce\u013cojumu. Tas ir laiks, kur\u0101 daudzi d\u0113sti s\u0101k att\u012bst\u012bties, un daudz\u0113j\u0101d\u0101 zi\u0146\u0101 j\u016bs esat plauksto\u0161i ziedi. Kop\u0101 m\u0113s veidojam vienot\u012bbu, dv\u0113se\u013cu kolekt\u012bvu, kas velta sevi jaunas izpratnes dzim\u0161anai. T\u0101p\u0113c neredziet vairs mani k\u0101 meistaru, kur\u0161 st\u0101v virs jums, bet k\u0101 draugu, kur\u0161 tur j\u016bs pie rokas un v\u0113las dal\u012bties sav\u0101 m\u012blest\u012bb\u0101 ar jums, jo es j\u016bs visus dzi\u013ci m\u012blu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jums ir intens\u012bva v\u0113lme p\u0113c m\u012blest\u012bbas. J\u016bs mekl\u0113jat to attiec\u012bb\u0101s ar citiem un ar\u012b caur saikni ar dievi\u0161\u0137o. Bet paties\u012bb\u0101 tas, p\u0113c k\u0101 j\u016bs alkstat, atrodas j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113, t\u0101 ir j\u016bsu pa\u0161u dievi\u0161\u0137\u0101 daba, j\u016bsu da\u013ca, kura ir vienota ar beznosac\u012bjumu m\u012blest\u012bbu un prieku. Kad j\u016bs piedz\u012bvojat \u0161o sevis da\u013cu, t\u0101 ir k\u0101 atgrie\u0161an\u0101s m\u0101j\u0101s. Viss cits j\u016bsu dz\u012bv\u0113 k\u013c\u016bst vienk\u0101r\u0161s, gai\u0161s un l\u012bksms. J\u016bs esat vienoti ar sevi pa\u0161u, un jums nekas nav nepiecie\u0161ams \u0101rpus pa\u0161a, lai j\u016bs justos labi. J\u016bs esat vienot\u012bb\u0101 ar sevi pa\u0161u \u2013 un tom\u0113r j\u016bs j\u016btaties saist\u012bts ar visu p\u0101r\u0113jo dzi\u013c\u0101 un tuv\u0101 veid\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paradoks\u0101li attiec\u012bb\u0101s ir tas, ka j\u016bs varat b\u016bt tuvi saist\u012bts ar otru cilv\u0113ku vien\u012bgi tad, ja sp\u0113jat aptvert vienot\u012bbu ar sevi pa\u0161u. Ja j\u016bs esat gatavi pie\u0146emt sevi, ar pag\u0101tnes slogu, ar j\u016bsu k\u0101pumiem un kritumiem \u2013 tad ir vieta citam cilv\u0113kam ar vi\u0146a vai vi\u0146as unik\u0101lo individualit\u0101ti. Tad j\u016bs vairs neizmantojat citu cilv\u0113ku, lai ietu uz M\u0101j\u0101m. T\u0101 viet\u0101 j\u016bs dal\u0101ties M\u0101j\u0101s, kuras j\u016bs nesat savas sirds iek\u0161ien\u0113, ar \u0161o otru cilv\u0113ku. \u0160is attiec\u012bbu veids k\u013c\u016bst par kop\u012bgiem sv\u0113tkiem, dal\u012b\u0161anos, un t\u0101s ir dziedino\u0161as attiec\u012bbas, vai t\u0101s b\u016btu ar partneri, draugu vai b\u0113rnu; tam nav b\u016btiskas at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bbas. Tom\u0113r m\u012blest\u012bbas attiec\u012bbas \u2013 partneru attiec\u012bbas \u2013 ir attiec\u012bbas, kuras visvair\u0101k dzimst j\u016bsos. T\u0101s skar j\u016bs dzi\u013ci un savi\u013c\u0146o dzi\u013cas emocijas, jo t\u0101s, \u0161\u0137iet, tur sol\u012bjumu par atn\u0101k\u0161anu M\u0101j\u0101s, ko citas attiec\u012bbas nedara.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pirms es run\u0101ju par m\u012blest\u012bbas attiec\u012bb\u0101m, es grib\u0113tu atg\u0101din\u0101t jums, ka M\u0101jas, p\u0113c kur\u0101m j\u016bs ilgojaties, t\u0101 s\u0101kotn\u0113j\u0101 vienot\u012bba, no kuras j\u016bs piedzim\u0101t k\u0101 dv\u0113sele, nav t\u0101lu prom. J\u016bs varat teikt, ka laika zi\u0146\u0101 tas bija \u013coti sen, kad j\u016bs pa\u0146\u0113m\u0101t atva\u013cin\u0101jumu, simboliski run\u0101jot, no Parad\u012bzes. Kad j\u016bs k\u0101p\u0101t uz sava ce\u013ca k\u0101 \u201cdv\u0113sele \u0137ermen\u012b\u201d un izv\u0113l\u0113j\u0101ties noteiktu formu, kur\u0101 paust sevi, piedz\u012bvot pieredzes un apmekl\u0113t da\u017e\u0101das vietas visum\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad j\u016bs piedzim\u0101t k\u0101 individu\u0101la dv\u0113sele un uz\u0146\u0113m\u0101ties savu ce\u013cojumu, j\u016bs atteic\u0101ties no \u0161\u012bs pirmatn\u0113j\u0101s vienot\u012bbas, kuru j\u016bs varat izt\u0113loties k\u0101 siltu m\u012blest\u012bbas un gaismas segu, kas bija tik paz\u012bstama jums. Vienot\u012bbu, kur\u0101 j\u016bs vienm\u0113r jut\u0101t dro\u0161o T\u0113va-M\u0101tes-Dieva kl\u0101tb\u016btni, un t\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs nekad nebaid\u012bj\u0101ties palikt viens vai noraid\u012bts. \u0160o \u201cnegat\u012bvo\u201d j\u0113dzienu nebija pat j\u016bsu sapratn\u0113, un tom\u0113r Diev\u0101 darboj\u0101s arhetipisks sp\u0113ks, kur\u0161 lika jums piedzimt \u0101r\u0101 no \u0161\u012bs T\u0113va-M\u0101tes-Dieva vienot\u012bbas dzemdes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>K\u0101ds bija \u0161\u012bs piedzim\u0161anas m\u0113r\u0137is?&nbsp;<em>Lai j\u016bs visi var\u0113tu k\u013c\u016bt par neatkar\u012bgiem dieviem!<\/em>&nbsp;Lai j\u016bs pa\u0161i var\u0113tu k\u013c\u016bt par s\u0101kuma punktu T\u0113va-M\u0101tes-Dieva siltuma un m\u012blest\u012bbas avotam, no kura tiek rad\u012bta un izn\u0101k b\u016bt\u0146u bezgal\u012bba. Ta\u010du atvad\u012b\u0161an\u0101s s\u0101kum\u0101 jums n\u0101ca k\u0101 \u0161oks. J\u016bs saprat\u0101t, ka ar \u0161o atdal\u012b\u0161anos no vienot\u012bbas ir atn\u0101ku\u0161as zin\u0101\u0161anas, ka, lai patiesi pieredz\u0113tu att\u012bst\u012bbas procesu, jums nekas neb\u016btu j\u0101zina iepriek\u0161. J\u016bs saprat\u0101t, ka tikai atsevi\u0161\u0137i no \u0161\u012bs pirmatn\u0113j\u0101s vienot\u012bbas j\u016bs var\u0113tu iet pa savu pa\u0161a ce\u013cu k\u0101 individu\u0101la dv\u0113sele, kas pirmo reizi iepaz\u012bstas ar nezin\u0101m\u0101 un nesaprotam\u0101 bail\u0113m un pamest\u012bbu, un tumsu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>J\u016bs joproj\u0101m nesat to s\u0101kotn\u0113jo pamest\u012bbas un vientul\u012bbas pieredzi, kas \u013coti stipri var par\u0101d\u012bties m\u012blest\u012bbas attiec\u012bbu jom\u0101. Bet, pirms es v\u0113r\u0161os pie \u0161\u012bm attiec\u012bb\u0101m, es grib\u0113tu jums atg\u0101din\u0101t, ka jums ir iesp\u0113ja piedz\u012bvot \u0161o pirmatn\u0113jo saikni&nbsp;<em>jebkur\u0101 laik\u0101<\/em>. Kad j\u016bs iegrimstat bezsap\u0146u mieg\u0101, j\u016bs atst\u0101jat savu \u0137ermeni un savienojaties ar visdzi\u013c\u0101ko avotu, no kura j\u016bs n\u0101c\u0101t, ar Dievu, ja j\u016bs v\u0113laties to t\u0101 saukt, jeb ar visdzi\u013c\u0101ko kodolu sev\u012b, to j\u016bsu da\u013cu, kura nekad nav atst\u0101jusi Parad\u012bzi un v\u0113l aizvien ir tur. Kaut ar\u012b j\u016bs atst\u0101j\u0101t vi\u0146u pirms miljoniem gadu, vienot\u012bba joproj\u0101m ir j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113; t\u0101 ir neat\u0146emama j\u016bsu apzi\u0146as da\u013ca. Nakt\u012b, ja j\u016bsu pr\u0101ts nav p\u0101r\u0101k akt\u012bvs un j\u016bs \u013caujaties miegam un nemateri\u0101laj\u0101m sf\u0113r\u0101m, kur\u0101s j\u016bs ieejat, tad, tikko j\u016bs atst\u0101jat savu \u0137ermeni, j\u016bs non\u0101kt \u0161aj\u0101 avot\u0101 un atspirdzin\u0101t sevi. Ar\u012b sav\u0101 ikdienas dz\u012bv\u0113 j\u016bs varat veikt savienojumu ar \u0161o dievi\u0161\u0137\u0101 gara realit\u0101ti, gara, kura visdzi\u013c\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca j\u016bs esat. K\u013c\u016bstot \u013coti mier\u012bgam, j\u016bs varat sajust \u0161o kl\u0101tb\u016btni \u0161eit un tagad. Es aicinu j\u016bs sajust, k\u0101 kop\u012bgi, k\u0101 viens vesels, m\u0113s sast\u0101d\u0101m da\u013cu no \u0161\u012b s\u0101kotn\u0113j\u0101 Dieva veidola.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Izt\u0113lojieties, ka j\u016bsu kr\u016b\u0161u vid\u016b, j\u016bsu sirds \u010dakr\u0101 ir spo\u017es, skaists krist\u0101ls. Izt\u0113lojieties vi\u0146u tur un saj\u016btiet vi\u0146a sp\u0113ku: tas ir t\u012brs, skaidrs krist\u0101ls, kura visas \u0161\u0137autnes vienlaikus atspogu\u013co j\u016bsu daudz\u0101s pieredzes. \u0160is sirds-krist\u0101ls ir saist\u012bts ar\u012b ar visu j\u016bsu apk\u0101rtn\u0113. T\u0101s saj\u016btas, ko j\u016bs sa\u0146emat no citiem, var tikt atspogu\u013cotas \u0161aj\u0101 krist\u0101l\u0101, un t\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101, sa\u0146emot vi\u0146u garast\u0101vokli un emocijas caur \u0161o krist\u0101lu, j\u016bs non\u0101kat pie citu sapratnes. No \u0161\u012b sirds-krist\u0101la j\u016bs saprotat citu cilv\u0113ku pieredzi: vi\u0146u s\u0101pes un vil\u0161an\u0101s ir jums skaidras.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0160is sirds-krist\u0101ls ir savienots ar visu p\u0101r\u0113jo dz\u012bvo b\u016bt\u0146u sird\u012bm, jo m\u0113s visi esam viens. Un tom\u0113r j\u016bs varat ar\u012b just, ka \u0161\u012b sirds, kuru j\u016bs nesat sav\u0101s kr\u016bt\u012bs, pieder jums: t\u0101 ir j\u016bsu dv\u0113seles-sirds. J\u016btiet, k\u0101 abi aspekti saiet kop\u0101. J\u016bs esat savienoti ar sirds l\u012bmeni \u2013 horizont\u0101lu lauku, kas savieno j\u016bs ar visu dz\u012bvo \u2013 \u0161eit nav sadal\u012bjuma, jo m\u0113s visi esam viens. Tom\u0113r j\u016bs esat ar\u012b \u201cviens\u201d, ar noz\u012bmi, ka j\u016bs esat j\u016bs un neviens cits nav tie\u0161i t\u0101ds k\u0101 j\u016bs. J\u016bs esat individu\u0101la b\u016btne, un vertik\u0101la l\u012bnija savieno j\u016bs tie\u0161i ar j\u016bsu avotu, ar Dievu. J\u016bs esat \u0161aj\u0101 fiziskaj\u0101 \u0137ermen\u012b, kur\u0161 nes j\u016bsu sirdi, j\u016bsu pa\u0161a da\u013cu no Dieva apzi\u0146as.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>J\u016btiet \u0161\u012b krist\u0101la bezgal\u012bbu; neierobe\u017eoto apzi\u0146u, kura pieder jums un tom\u0113r var iet, kurp v\u0113las. Vi\u0146a nav piesaist\u012bta \u0161im \u0137ermenim, kaut ar\u012b vi\u0146a ir \u0161aj\u0101 \u0137ermen\u012b tagad, uz laiku, bet vi\u0146a ir tik neierobe\u017eota ener\u0123ija, ka galu gal\u0101 nav saist\u012bta ar k\u0101du formu. J\u016bs esat \u0161\u012b apzi\u0146a; j\u016bs esat atvesti k\u0101 gabali\u0146i no T\u0113va-M\u0101tes-Dieva dievi\u0161\u0137\u0101s fabrikas, kop\u0101 ar \u0137ermeni \u0161eit uz Zemi. J\u016bs esat veseli un pabeigti sav\u0101 iek\u0161ien\u0113, un j\u016bs esat \u0161\u012b sirds-krist\u0101la sargi. Atcerieties to, kam\u0113r m\u0113s tagad apl\u016bkojam m\u012blest\u012bbas attiec\u012bbu sh\u0113mu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad j\u016bs iem\u012bl\u0113jaties otr\u0101 cilv\u0113k\u0101, bie\u017ei pieredzat stipru prieku attiec\u012bbu s\u0101kum\u0101. Liekas, ka it k\u0101 kaut kas savi\u013c\u0146ojo\u0161s pla\u0161i atveras j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113, kaut kas, kas ilgi bijis pasl\u0113pts un ko var atsl\u0113gt tikai t\u0101 otra skatiens. Ne\u0161\u0137iet, ka citi cilv\u0113ki redz\u0113tu \u0161o \u201ckaut ko\u201d j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113, bet j\u016bsu m\u012b\u013cotais cilv\u0113ks pamodina nesl\u0113ptu skaistumu tam, kas j\u016bs esat. Atgrie\u017eas j\u016bsu dz\u012bves aizraut\u012bba un entuziasms, j\u016bs j\u016btaties iev\u0113roti un m\u012bl\u0113ti, un j\u016bs gatavojaties piedz\u012bvot savu pa\u0161a dzi\u013cumu \u2013 br\u012bnumu jums. To j\u016bs piedz\u012bvojat aizraut\u012bb\u0101. Un, lai gan liekas, ka runa iet par otru, paties\u012bb\u0101 runa ir par jums, par to, ko otrs izraisa j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113 un kas ir apburo\u0161s k\u0101 br\u012bnums! Jums liekas, ka esat pamodu\u0161ies tikai tagad un lai justu, cik daudz jums ir ko dot un cik daudz j\u016bs varat b\u016bt m\u012bl\u0113ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u0101d\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b cilv\u0113ki parasti apreibst no bij\u012bbas un br\u012bnuma par \u0161o aizrau\u0161anos, ko vi\u0146i pieredz, un vi\u0146i akli piesaista sevi tam, kas vi\u0146os ir pamodin\u0101jis \u0161\u012bs j\u016btas. Vi\u0146\u0161 vai vi\u0146a tur sav\u0101s rok\u0101s \u201cburvju n\u016bji\u0146u\u201d, un tas, kas s\u0101kotn\u0113ji izrais\u012bja atkl\u0101smi un m\u012blo\u0161as j\u016btas gan pret sevi, gan pret otru, pak\u0101peniski noved pie b\u0113g\u0161anas no sevis pa\u0161a, l\u012bdz j\u016bs k\u013c\u016bstat piln\u012bgi koncentr\u0113ju\u0161ies uz otru.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tad s\u0101kas c\u012b\u0146a ar otru. J\u016bs v\u0113laties, lai jums pieder\u0113tu t\u0101 vi\u0146a da\u013ca, kas jums \u013cauj justies tik labi. Un otrs bie\u017ei dara to pa\u0161u ar jums, un j\u016bs abi k\u013c\u016bstat stipri apmulsu\u0161i par \u0161o virves vilk\u0161anu katram uz savu pusi. T\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 augst\u0101kais, ko j\u016bs varat dot viens otram, galu gal\u0101 izsauc zem\u0101ko, proti, greizsird\u012bbu, atkar\u012bbu un smagas c\u012b\u0146as. Tas ir \u013coti s\u0101p\u012bgs kritiens, ko gandr\u012bz ikviens ir pieredz\u0113jis sav\u0101 dz\u012bv\u0113.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>K\u0101 \u0161is kritiens notiek? J\u016bsos ir divas da\u013cas. No t\u0101 sirds-krist\u0101la, kuru es aprakst\u012bju, j\u016bsos ir m\u012blest\u012bba, kura var redz\u0113t otru tie\u0161i t\u0101du, k\u0101ds vi\u0146\u0161 vai vi\u0146a ir, un var izjust kl\u0101teso\u0161o skaistumu. No \u0161\u012bs telpas j\u016bsu sird\u012b j\u016bs varat ieiet vien\u0101d\u0101 un l\u012bdzsvarot\u0101 saikn\u0113 viens ar otru, kur\u0101 j\u016bs atz\u012bstat dievi\u0161\u0137o viens otr\u0101 un kur\u0101 j\u016bs nepazaud\u0113jat ar\u012b cilv\u0113cisko pusi viens otr\u0101. J\u016bs at\u013caujat otram vi\u0146a s\u0101pes, aizdomas, vil\u0161an\u0101s un pretest\u012bbu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bet j\u016bsu v\u0113dera rajon\u0101 darbojas cita ener\u0123ija, kaut kas, kas var b\u016bt \u013coti sp\u0113c\u012bgs, graujo\u0161s sp\u0113ks kaisl\u012bb\u0101. Es saucu \u0161o ener\u0123iju par nev\u0113r\u012bb\u0101 atst\u0101tu b\u0113rnu, kur\u0161 nes sev\u012b \u013coti stipras un dzi\u013cas s\u0101pes, kuru saknes ir taj\u0101s pirmatn\u0113j\u0101s kosmisk\u0101s dzim\u0161anas s\u0101p\u0113s par T\u0113va-M\u0101tes-Dieva vienot\u012bbas atst\u0101\u0161anu. \u0160is b\u0113rns ar\u012b pamostas, kad j\u016bs iem\u012bl\u0113jaties, un \u0161im b\u0113rnam ir daudz emociju, kas var aptum\u0161ot j\u016bsu sirdi. \u0160\u012bs emocijas var apkl\u0101t sirds-krist\u0101lu un aiz\u0113not faktu, ka&nbsp;<em>j\u016bs<\/em>&nbsp;esat avots priekam un sv\u0113tlaimei, ko j\u016bs izj\u016btat romantisk\u0101s m\u012blest\u012bbas s\u0101kuma posmos. \u0160\u012bs j\u016btas attiec\u0101s uz&nbsp;<em>jums<\/em>&nbsp;un telpu, ko j\u016bs pie\u0161\u0137\u012br\u0101t sev pa\u0161am, kuru padar\u012bja iesp\u0113jamu otrs, bet t\u0101s joproj\u0101m attiec\u0101s uz&nbsp;<em>jums<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tom\u0113r b\u0113rnam j\u016bsos, kuram s\u0101p un kur\u0161 kliedz p\u0113c uzman\u012bbas, m\u012blest\u012bbas un atz\u012b\u0161anas, kuru vi\u0146am ir tr\u016bcis tik ilgi, var rasties k\u0101rdin\u0101jums it k\u0101 cie\u0161i satvert partneri, vi\u0146\u0161 par katru cenu v\u0113las ieg\u016bt sev to, k\u0101 vi\u0146am tr\u016bkst. T\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 b\u0113rns un sirds-krist\u0101ls beig\u0101s var izr\u0101d\u012bties div\u0101s pretnostat\u012bt\u0101s pus\u0113s. Tas, kas s\u0101kum\u0101 izskat\u012bj\u0101s \u013coti skaisti, p\u0101rv\u0113r\u0161as destrukt\u012bv\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s, kur j\u016bs izejat c\u012bn\u012bties viens pret otru un iesl\u012bgstat c\u012b\u0146\u0101, kuru neviens nev\u0113las, bet kura notiek t\u0101 vai cit\u0101di.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Br\u012bd\u012b, kad burv\u012bba draud izzust, jums var uzn\u0101kt izmisums. Par katru cenu j\u016bs gribat tur\u0113ties pie j\u016bsu partnera, jo reiz j\u016bs izjut\u0101t absol\u016btas m\u012blest\u012bbas j\u016btas ar \u0161o cilv\u0113ku. J\u016bs izejat c\u012bni\u0146\u0101, lai t\u0101s notur\u0113tu, un sp\u0113l\u0113 var iesaist\u012bties j\u016bsu vec\u0101k\u0101s s\u0101pes, j\u016bsu emocijas no dusm\u0101m, bail\u0113m no pamest\u012bbas, pat naids. Ir \u013coti gr\u016bti atlaist otru cilv\u0113ku ar\u012b t\u0101p\u0113c, ka j\u016bs nodarbin\u0101s atmi\u0146as, cik labi tas bija, kad viss bija harmonij\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0160aj\u0101 stadij\u0101 jums ir \u013coti svar\u012bgi prast atlaist. Br\u012bd\u012b, kad j\u016bs j\u016btat, ka j\u016bsu attiec\u012bbas ir non\u0101ku\u0161as lejupejo\u0161\u0101 spir\u0101l\u0113 un j\u016bs esat gatavi aps\u016bdz\u0113t un vainot viens otru, ir pien\u0101cis laiks spert soli atpaka\u013c. J\u016bs varat ievainot viens otru tik stipri tie\u0161i t\u0101d\u0113\u013c, ka j\u016bs esat piesk\u0101ru\u0161ies viens otram tik dzi\u013ci, un \u0161\u012bs s\u0101pes ir \u013coti gr\u016bti dzied\u0113t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u0101p\u0113c uzdro\u0161inieties spert soli atpaka\u013c, kad j\u016bs j\u016btat, ka s\u0101kat nekontrol\u0113t sevi, ka j\u016bs nes prom emocijas, kas ne\u013caus jums tuvoties j\u016bsu partnerim ar atv\u0113rtu sirdi. J\u016bs varat sajust dzi\u013cas bailes b\u016bt pamestam, vai glu\u017ei pret\u0113ji: bailes savienoties ar k\u0101du tik dzi\u013ci, ka j\u016bs zaud\u0113jat sevi vi\u0146\u0101. Var b\u016bt citas emocijas, t\u0101das k\u0101 dusmas vai greizsird\u012bba, bet svar\u012bgi, ka j\u016bs iev\u0113rojat, ka visintens\u012bv\u0101k\u0101s emocijas&nbsp;<em>vair\u0101k attiecas uz jums nek\u0101 uz attiec\u012bb\u0101m<\/em>. Attiec\u012bbas ir emociju izrais\u012bt\u0101jas, bet emocij\u0101m pa\u0161\u0101m ir dzi\u013c\u0101ki c\u0113lo\u0146i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tagad jums ir svar\u012bgi pagriezties pret\u012b s\u0101pin\u0101tajam un nov\u0101rt\u0101 atst\u0101tajam b\u0113rnam j\u016bsos, kas ir \u012bstais c\u0113lonis j\u016bsu emocion\u0101lajai nel\u012bdzsvarot\u012bbai. To dar\u012bt nav j\u016bsu partnera pien\u0101kums. Un j\u016bs ar\u012b neesat atbild\u012bgi par j\u016bsu partnera iek\u0161\u0113jo b\u0113rnu. Padarot k\u0101dus citus atbild\u012bgus par j\u016bsu s\u0101p\u0113m un cerot, ka vi\u0146i dzied\u0113s t\u0101s, j\u016bs non\u0101kat pie milz\u012bg\u0101m neskaidr\u012bb\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u0101tad, k\u0101 j\u016bs varat redz\u0113t, ka attiec\u012bb\u0101s, kas s\u0101kotn\u0113ji bija m\u012blest\u012bbas saikne, iet nepareizi un t\u0101s k\u013c\u016bst nel\u012bdzsvarotas? Paties\u012bb\u0101 tas ir skaidri redzams, un viens no ce\u013ciem, k\u0101 noskaidrot to, ir veikt simbolisku vingrin\u0101jumu ar j\u016bsu iek\u0161\u0113jo b\u0113rnu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Izt\u0113lojieties, ka j\u016bs \u0161aj\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b st\u0101vat pret\u012b savam partnerim. Vai izv\u0113lieties k\u0101du, kur\u0161 jums ir \u013coti svar\u012bgs, ja jums pa\u0161reiz nav partnera, un \u013caujiet j\u016bsu iek\u0161\u0113jam b\u0113rnam nost\u0101ties pa kreisi no jums. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i izt\u0113lojieties sevi k\u0101 b\u0113rnu apm\u0113ram desmit gadu vecum\u0101 un nost\u0101jieties ar \u0161o b\u0113rnu kreisaj\u0101 pus\u0113 pret\u012b j\u016bsu partnerim. Tagad skatieties, k\u0101 b\u0113rns rea\u0123\u0113 uz j\u016bsu m\u012b\u013coto. Pav\u0113rojiet \u0161\u012b b\u0113rna pirmo reakciju. Pajaut\u0101jiet b\u0113rnam: \u201cKas tevi valdzina vi\u0146\u0101? Ko tu atradi tik neatvair\u0101mu? Kas pieskaras tavai sirdij, kas fascin\u0113 tevi?\u201d Un tad j\u016bs jaut\u0101jat: \u201cKa tu tagad j\u016bties?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vai kaut kas notiek ar \u0161o s\u0101kotn\u0113jo kvalit\u0101ti? Vai b\u0113rns joproj\u0101m izj\u016bt \u0161o m\u012blest\u012bbu? Dziedino\u0161\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s \u0161\u012b unik\u0101l\u0101 kvalit\u0101te joproj\u0101m ir \u013coti sp\u0113c\u012bga. T\u0101 joproj\u0101m j\u016bs baro, joproj\u0101m silda, kam\u0113r tai pat laik\u0101 j\u016bsu partneri ir ieguvis daudz cilv\u0113cisk\u0101ku formu, ar sav\u0101m vi\u0146as vai vi\u0146a probl\u0113m\u0101m un k\u0101pumiem un kritumiem. Tom\u0113r kaut kas no \u0161\u012bs s\u0101kotn\u0113j\u0101s burv\u012bbas joproj\u0101m past\u0101v, un, pateicoties \u0161ai burv\u012bbai, probl\u0113mas var p\u0101rvar\u0113t. Ja j\u016bs paman\u0101t, ka burv\u012bba ir prom, ja j\u016bsu iek\u0161\u0113jais b\u0113rns tagad j\u016btas nem\u012bl\u0113ts vai, ka pret vi\u0146u izturas netaisn\u012bgi, tad notiek kaut kas, kam jums ir nepiecie\u0161ams piev\u0113rst uzman\u012bbu. Veltiet laiku, lai atkl\u0101tu to ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo b\u0113rnu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lai noskaidrotu situ\u0101ciju, atlaidiet iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101 b\u0113rna t\u0113lu, un tagad izt\u0113lojieties, ka j\u016bs st\u0101vat izv\u0113l\u0113t\u0101 partnera priek\u0161\u0101, un v\u0113rojiet k\u0101 do\u0161anas un sa\u0146em\u0161anas ener\u0123ijas pl\u016bst starp jums. Vispirms v\u0113rojiet, ko j\u016bs dodat otram, un saj\u016btiet to, tam nav j\u0101b\u016bt izteiktam v\u0101rdos, kam\u0113r j\u016bs j\u016btat to. V\u0113rojiet, kas pl\u016bst no jums pie otra, un k\u0101 j\u016bs j\u016btaties \u0161aj\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b. Vai j\u016bs k\u013c\u016bstat ener\u0123\u0113tiski bag\u0101t\u0101ks no \u0161\u012bs do\u0161anas, vai ar\u012b j\u016btaties tuk\u0161s un nomoc\u012bjies? Vai t\u0101 ir iedvesmojo\u0161a, vai ar\u012b t\u0101 j\u016bs izsme\u013c? Paturiet \u0161o pirmo saj\u016btu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>P\u0113c v\u0113ro\u0161anas, ko j\u016bs dodat otram, ieskatieties pret\u0113j\u0101 mijiedarb\u012bb\u0101. Ko j\u016bs&nbsp;<em>sa\u0146emat<\/em>&nbsp;no otra? Pa\u013caujieties tikai uz pirmo saj\u016btu, kas j\u016bs apmekl\u0113. Vai j\u016bsu sa\u0146emtais ir saj\u016btams k\u0101 labs? Vai tas padara j\u016bsu sirdi atv\u0113rt\u0101ku? Vai j\u016bs j\u016btaties laim\u012bg\u0101ks sa\u0146emt\u0101 rezult\u0101t\u0101? Dziedino\u0161u attiec\u012bbu b\u016bt\u012bba ir, ka otrs dod jums kaut ko, kas rada prieku j\u016bsu sird\u012b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Visbeidzot, ir ar\u012b cita destrukt\u012bvu attiec\u012bbu z\u012bme. No j\u016bsu saules pinuma \u2013 vietas j\u016bsu ku\u0146\u0123a tuvum\u0101 \u2013 saj\u016btiet ener\u0123ijas \u201csaiti\u201d, kas savieno j\u016bs ar otru. Ja j\u016bs esat jut\u012bgi, varb\u016bt j\u016bs varat sajust \u0161o saiti. Tas, ko j\u016bs mekl\u0113jat, ir saj\u016bta, ka jums vajag ieg\u016bt otru, ka j\u016bs kr\u012btat panik\u0101 no domas, ka otrs vairs neb\u016bs \u0161eit, ka kaut kas velk aiz \u0161\u012bs saites. Ja j\u016bs to j\u016btat, tad p\u0113c b\u016bt\u012bbas t\u0101 ir ener\u0123\u0113tiska nabassaite, kas savieno j\u016bs ar otru un sniedz \u0161o saj\u016btu: \u201cMan&nbsp;<em>vajag<\/em>&nbsp;vi\u0146us, es nevaru iztikt bez vi\u0146iem!\u201d \u0160\u012b panisk\u0101 saj\u016bta r\u0101da, ka j\u016bs nedarbojaties patst\u0101v\u012bgi vai vismaz j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ka nevarat iztikt bez citiem, un \u0161\u0101da atkar\u012bba var novest pie destrukt\u012bv\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dziedino\u0161\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s ir dabiski ilgoties vienam p\u0113c otra, ja t\u0101d\u0101 vai cit\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 j\u016bs b\u016btu \u0161\u0137irti. Ir dabiski g\u016bt prieku un t\u0101p\u0113c ilgoties vienam p\u0113c otra sabiedr\u012bbas. J\u016bs varat v\u0113l\u0113ties otru, bet jums nav nepiecie\u0161ams otrs. Bet destrukt\u012bv\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s darbojas kaut kas posto\u0161s. Ir saj\u016bta, ka j\u016bs nevarat neko izdar\u012bt vai b\u016bt bez citiem, ka no vi\u0146iem ir atkar\u012bga j\u016bsu labsaj\u016bta \u2013 varb\u016bt pati j\u016bsu dz\u012bve \u2013 un tas iev\u0113rojami v\u0101jina j\u016bs. Ir dzi\u013cas bailes no iesp\u0113jam\u0101 noraid\u012bjuma no citu puses, un tas padara j\u016bs mazus un ierobe\u017eotus, un vis\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m vairs nav \u0161\u012b priec\u012bg\u0101 pla\u0161uma un br\u012bv\u012bbas, kas bija s\u0101kum\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M\u0113\u0123iniet sajust \u0161\u012bs lietas priek\u0161 sevis, mier\u012bgi, sav\u0101 pa\u0161a veid\u0101. Un nebaidieties rad\u012bt telpu attiec\u012bb\u0101s, lai \u013cautu sev pa\u0161am sajust \u0161\u012bs lietas b\u016bt\u012bbu. Jo tikl\u012bdz j\u016bs atrodaties attiec\u012bbu negat\u012bv\u0101 spir\u0101l\u0113, bie\u017ei ir nepiecie\u0161ams, lai partneri distanc\u0113tos viens no otra, fiziski un emocion\u0101li, lai saprastu, kur vi\u0146i st\u0101v. \u0160\u0101d\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b bie\u017ei nav lietder\u012bgi m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t p\u0101rrun\u0101t lietas. Ir nepiecie\u0161ams, lai j\u016bsu ener\u0123ijas lauki vispirms k\u013c\u016btu br\u012bvi vienam no otra, lai ieg\u016btu pietiekami daudz vietas priek\u0161 atgrie\u0161an\u0101s j\u016bsu sirds-krist\u0101la centr\u0101. Nolaidieties ar savu apzi\u0146u iek\u0161ien\u0113 \u0161im br\u012bni\u0161\u0137\u012bgajam skaidrajam krist\u0101lam, kas ir j\u016bsu b\u016bt\u012bba. Neesiet atkar\u012bgi no citiem, lai izjustu to sev\u012b; tas tur ir priek\u0161 jums \u2013 vienm\u0113r. Tie ir Dieva \u010duksti, ko j\u016bs varat dzird\u0113t klusum\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Saj\u016btiet, k\u0101 no krist\u0101la gaismas stari apsp\u012bd b\u0113rnu j\u016bsos, kur\u0161 joproj\u0101m cie\u0161 s\u0101pes un kur\u0161 joproj\u0101m mekl\u0113 \u0101rpus sevis pie\u0146em\u0161anu un m\u012blest\u012bbu, un dro\u0161\u012bbu. \u013baujiet, lai gaismas stari kr\u012bt p\u0101r \u0161o b\u0113rnu, un j\u016bs burtiski varat redz\u0113t, ka krist\u0101la gaisma, \u0161\u0137iet, noenkuro sevi, pl\u016bstot dzi\u013c\u0101k un dzi\u013c\u0101k lejup pa j\u016bsu v\u0113deru un visu ce\u013cu lejup caur j\u016bsu k\u0101j\u0101m uz Zemi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u0101 ir&nbsp;<em>j\u016bsu<\/em>&nbsp;gaisma,&nbsp;<em>j\u016bsu<\/em>&nbsp;unik\u0101l\u0101 Dv\u0113seles Gaisma! J\u016bs esat \u0161eit, lai pieredz\u0113tu \u0161o gaismu \u0137ermen\u012b uz Zemes. J\u016bsu \u012bpa\u0161\u0101 gaism\u0101 ir unik\u0101la, t\u0101 ir j\u016bsu E\u0146\u0123e\u013ca Gaisma, un, ja j\u016bs paliekat saist\u012bti ar vi\u0146u, tad j\u016bs piesaist\u0101t dzied\u0113jo\u0161as attiec\u012bbas sav\u0101 dz\u012bv\u0113. Jums nav \u201cvajadz\u012bbas\u201d p\u0113c k\u0101da. Un jums nav ar\u012b vajadz\u012bbas padar\u012bt k\u0101du par kaut ko \u201cperfektu\u201d: k\u0101du, kur\u0161&nbsp;<em>beidzot<\/em>&nbsp;redz j\u016bs no j\u016bsu v\u0113lmju redzes viedok\u013ca un kur\u0161&nbsp;<em>bez nosac\u012bjumiem<\/em>&nbsp;saprot un pie\u0146em j\u016bs t\u0101, k\u0101 j\u016bs to v\u0113l\u0113tos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Beznosac\u012bjuma pie\u0146em\u0161anu un m\u012blest\u012bbu varat atrast vien\u012bgi j\u016bsu&nbsp;<em>pa\u0161a<\/em>&nbsp;sird\u012b \u2013 pats un priek\u0161 pa\u0161a. Neapgr\u016btiniet otru ar \u0161o pien\u0101kumu. \u0160\u012b absol\u016bt\u0101 m\u012blest\u012bba ir kaut kas starp jums un jums Pa\u0161u. To j\u016bs varat sniegt vien\u012bgi sev pa\u0161am, un izdar\u012bju\u0161i to, j\u016bs k\u013c\u016bsiet par m\u012blest\u012bbas str\u016bklaku citiem, jo tad j\u016bs k\u013c\u016bstat piln\u012bgi god\u012bgi un patiesi pret sevi J\u016bs m\u012blat sevi pa\u0161u, ieskaitot tum\u0161o pusi: \u0161o b\u0113rnu j\u016bsos, kur\u0161 da\u017ereiz c\u012bn\u0101s un ir nomoc\u012bjies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad j\u016bs m\u012blat sevi pa\u0161u, ir viegl\u0101k ieraudz\u012bt otru cilv\u0113ku no patiesa redzes viedok\u013ca. Jums vairs nav tik person\u012bgi j\u0101uz\u0146em reiz\u0113m uzbr\u016bko\u0161as vai aizvainojo\u0161as lietas, ko vi\u0146a vai vi\u0146\u0161 saka vai dara. Vi\u0146u r\u012bc\u012bba un reakcija pieder vi\u0146iem, un k\u013c\u016bst viegl\u0101k neatbild\u0113t tik emocion\u0101li uz to. Otrs cilv\u0113ks vairs nav atbild\u012bgs par j\u016bsu dv\u0113seles gl\u0101b\u0161anu \u2013&nbsp;<em>j\u016bs esat<\/em>&nbsp;atbild\u012bgs.&nbsp;<em>J\u016bs<\/em>&nbsp;esat savas pasaules, savas realit\u0101tes saimnieks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>J\u016bs visi esat ce\u013c\u0101 uz pa\u0161-realiz\u0113\u0161anos, un j\u016bs jau pieskaraties citiem cilv\u0113kiem ar j\u016bsu sirds-krist\u0101lu: j\u016bs d\u0101v\u0101jat vi\u0146iem m\u012blest\u012bbas un cer\u012bbas dzirkstis. Es pateicos jums par j\u016bsu atn\u0101k\u0161anu uz Zemi \u0161aj\u0101 laik\u0101, \u0161aj\u0101 p\u0101rmai\u0146u un p\u0101rejas laik\u0101. Es esmu ar jums, un es dzi\u013ci r\u016bp\u0113jos par jums. J\u016bs esat mani br\u0101\u013ci un m\u0101sas, un es m\u012blu j\u016bs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00a9 Pamela Kribbe<br><a href=\"http:\/\/www.jeshua.net\/\">www.jeshua.net<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tulkoja J\u0101nis Oppe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pamelas \u010denelings ar Je\u0161ua Angliski tulkoju\u0161i Marija Baesa un Franks Tehans Es esmu Je\u0161ua. Es visus j\u016bs sirsn\u012bgi sveicu. Es ar pilnu sirdi esmu \u0161eit. Es v\u0113los dal\u012bties ar jums, man j\u016bs esat br\u0101\u013ci un m\u0101sas, un es j\u016btu dzi\u013cu radniec\u012bbu ar jums. 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