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Gerits Gilens<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vientul\u012bba ir viena no m\u016bsu laika liel\u0101kaj\u0101m probl\u0113m\u0101m. Daudzi cilv\u0113ki j\u016btas nesaprasti un citu neatz\u012bti. Un ne tikai gados veci cilv\u0113ki; pat cilv\u0113ki, kuriem ir \u0123imene un kuri ir aiz\u0146emti ar karjeru, bie\u017ei j\u016btas vientu\u013ci. Neskatoties uz vis\u0101m aktivit\u0101t\u0113m ap mums, m\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113 var b\u016bt kaut kas, kas \u0161\u0137iet neredzams. M\u016bsu b\u016btiska da\u013ca t\u0101d\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101 nav saist\u012bta ar pasauli, ar cilv\u0113kiem ap mums.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vientul\u012bbas iek\u0161\u0113jie c\u0113lo\u0146i<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0101 cilv\u0113ka b\u016btnei jums ir divi galvenie aspekti: v\u012bri\u0161\u0137ais un sievi\u0161\u0137ais aspekts. V\u012bri\u0161\u0137ais aspekts (iek\u0161\u0113jais v\u012brietis) r\u016bp\u0113jas par saj\u016btu \u2013 es esmu \u201ces\u201d, tas ir sp\u0113ks, kas j\u016bs at\u0161\u0137ir, kas \u013cauj jums sevi redz\u0113t at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bgu no citiem. Sievi\u0161\u0137aj\u0101 aspekt\u0101 (iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101 sieviet\u0113) ir sp\u0113ja savienoties. Neatkar\u012bgi no t\u0101, vai j\u016bs esat piedzimis k\u0101 v\u012brietis, vai sieviete, k\u0101 cilv\u0113ka b\u016btne j\u016bs esat piln\u012bgs. Tom\u0113r tas nav tas, kas jums ir m\u0101c\u012bts; kop\u0161 b\u0113rn\u012bbas m\u0113s m\u0101c\u0101mies, ka m\u0113s esam z\u0113ns vai meitene. Tas nosaka m\u016bsu virz\u012bbu, un no t\u0101 izriet, k\u0101 mums attiec\u012bgi vajadz\u0113tu r\u012bkoties. T\u0101dej\u0101di m\u0113s atsve\u0161in\u0101mies no savas da\u013cas, identific\u0113joties vai nu ar v\u012bri\u0161\u0137o aspektu, vai ar sievi\u0161\u0137o aspektu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja j\u016bs identific\u0113jaties ar v\u012bri\u0161\u0137o aspektu, tad j\u016bs esat vientu\u013c\u0161 t\u0101d\u0113\u013c, ka j\u016bsu da\u013cu, kura sp\u0113j savienoties, j\u016bs neatpaz\u012bstat. Ja j\u016bs identific\u0113jaties ar sievi\u0161\u0137o aspektu, tad j\u016bs p\u0101r\u0101k stipri pie\u0137eraties citiem un varat zaud\u0113t attiec\u012bbas. Tad rodas vientul\u012bbas saj\u016bta, jo j\u016bs vairs nesaprotat savu \u201ces\u201d. J\u016bs zaud\u0113jat savu saj\u016btu \u2013 kas j\u016bs esat k\u0101 individualit\u0101te.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vientul\u012bba pirm\u0101m k\u0101rt\u0101m ir iek\u0161\u0113ja probl\u0113ma: m\u0113s nesp\u0113jam sajust da\u013cu no sevis<\/em>. M\u0113s, iesp\u0113jams, pietiekami nesp\u0113jam izprast savu \u201ces\u201d, t\u0101 ir probl\u0113ma, kura bie\u017ei ir sieviet\u0113m, vai ar\u012b m\u0113s nej\u016btam to da\u013cu, kura sp\u0113j savienoties ar citiem, t\u0101 ir probl\u0113ma, kura ir daudziem v\u012brie\u0161iem. Tie\u0161i t\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs bie\u017ei redzat v\u012brie\u0161us, kuri j\u016btas vientu\u013ci, jo vi\u0146iem nav attiec\u012bbu. Vi\u0146iem nav pietiekama kontakta ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo sievieti \u2013 aspektu, kur\u0161 r\u016bp\u0113jas par lab\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m ar citiem cilv\u0113kiem \u2013 t\u0101d\u0113\u013c vi\u0146iem faktiski nav iesp\u0113jamas re\u0101las attiec\u012bbas. Sievietes bie\u017ei j\u016btas vientu\u013cas, ar\u012b b\u016bdamas attiec\u012bb\u0101s, jo vi\u0146\u0101m nav saj\u016btas, ka vi\u0146as saprot un atz\u012bst savu partneri. Kaut k\u0101 pietr\u016bkst, jo, kad sieviete nesaprot savu iek\u0161\u0113jo v\u012brieti, vi\u0146a sevi neredz piln\u012bb\u0101. Vi\u0146a, sp\u0113jot sapl\u016bst ar otru cilv\u0113ku, kaut ko pazaud\u0113: sevi. Tad m\u0113s redzam sievieti, kura, \u0161\u0137iet, ir piln\u012bgi saska\u0146ota ar savu v\u012bru, bet joproj\u0101m j\u016btas nelaim\u012bga. Un, t\u0101 k\u0101 vi\u0146ai nav saiknes ar savu v\u012bri\u0161\u0137o ener\u0123iju, vi\u0146a nevar atrast risin\u0101jumu savai dilemmai. T\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146a s\u0101ks s\u016bdz\u0113ties un gaid\u012bs, ka vi\u0146as v\u012brs atrisin\u0101s \u0161o nelaim\u012bgumu vi\u0146as viet\u0101. Vi\u0146as v\u012brs tom\u0113r nevar atrisin\u0101t vi\u0146as probl\u0113mu un arvien vair\u0101k un vair\u0101k s\u0101k sl\u0113pt savu aizvainoto, nelaim\u012bgo sievu. Tas vi\u0146u attiec\u012bb\u0101s rada lejupejo\u0161u spir\u0101li.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vientul\u012bba k\u0101 pasaules uzskats<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vientul\u012bba mums rada saj\u016btu, ka m\u0113s dz\u012bvojam pasaul\u0113, kur\u0101 nav re\u0101lu draugu, bez cilv\u0113kiem, kuri m\u016bs saprot; pasaul\u0113, kur\u0101 m\u0113s esam vieni. Tas ir b\u012bstami, ja m\u0113s to saredzam k\u0101 dotumu, k\u0101 faktu, ka t\u0101da ir pasaule. Literat\u016br\u0101 un filozofij\u0101 m\u0113s atrodam \u0161\u0137ietami \u013coti dzi\u013cus apgalvojumus, kas to apstiprina. Da\u017ei no paz\u012bstam\u0101kajiem ir: \u201cM\u0113s dz\u012bvojam t\u0101, k\u0101 m\u0113s sap\u0146ojam: vieni\u201d (\u201cWe live as we dream: alone\u201d) un \u201cElle ir citos\u201d (\u201cHell is the other\u201d)<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja m\u0113s esam gatavi pie\u0146emt \u0161os apgalvojumus un atrast apstiprin\u0101jumu past\u0101vo\u0161aj\u0101s filozofij\u0101s, m\u0113s savu vientul\u012bbu s\u0101kam redz\u0113t k\u0101 neizb\u0113gamu paties\u012bbu. Vientul\u012bba k\u013c\u016bst par pasaules uzskatu, tic\u012bbu. M\u0113s vairs neticam m\u012blo\u0161ajam Dievam vai iek\u0161\u0113jai saiknei ar citiem cilv\u0113kiem. M\u0113s esam vieni Visum\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ir cilv\u0113ki, kuri neuztver sievi\u0161\u0137o sev\u012b, un vi\u0146u pasaules uzskat\u0101 sievi\u0161\u0137ais \u2013 m\u012blo\u0161\u0101 savieno\u0161an\u0101s ener\u0123ija \u2013 neeksist\u0113. Katrs, kur\u0161 uzdro\u0161in\u0101s noraid\u012bt \u0161o cinisko t\u0113lu, tiek uzskat\u012bts par naivu. Tiesa, past\u0101v ar\u012b p\u0101rliec\u012bba, ka pien\u0101ks diena, kad \u0161ie \u201cmald\u012bju\u0161ies\u201d zin\u0101s lab\u0101k, ko dar\u012bt. \u0160\u0101da veida pesimisma liek\u0101k\u0101 pievilc\u012bba ir t\u0101 \u0161\u0137ietamais dzi\u013cums. M\u0113s non\u0101kam pie uzskata, ka v\u012brie\u0161u un sievie\u0161u at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba ir diezgan liela un ka vi\u0146i nekad nesaprot viens otru; ka \u0161\u012bs attiec\u012bbas ir bezcer\u012bga lieta: v\u012brietis ir no Marsa, un sieviete ir no Ven\u0113ras. Tom\u0113r paties\u012bb\u0101 abi ir no Saules.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0101 \u0161\u0101ds pasaules uzskats m\u016bs ietekm\u0113? K\u0101 jebkur\u0161 stingrs pasaules uzskats, tas noliedz dz\u012bvo realit\u0101ti; tas aptur dz\u012bves pl\u016bsmu. Apzi\u0146a vienm\u0113r tiecas uz izaugsmi; dz\u012bves dabisk\u0101 pl\u016bsma vienm\u0113r cen\u0161as rast risin\u0101jumus. T\u0101pat k\u0101 \u0137ermenis, ar\u012b gars m\u0113\u0123ina izdziedin\u0101ties pats. \u0160is dabiskais izdziedin\u0101\u0161an\u0101s process tiek blo\u0137\u0113ts, kad m\u0113s piln\u012bgi pa\u013caujamies uz tiem negat\u012bvajiem uzskatiem, kuri cilv\u0113ka vientul\u012bbu uzskata par neizb\u0113gamu. M\u0113s ies\u0113din\u0101m sevi pa\u0161darin\u0101t\u0101 ieslodz\u012bjum\u0101, kura restes veido m\u016bsu uzskati. \u0160ie uzskati tiek pasludin\u0101ti par absol\u016bt\u0101m paties\u012bb\u0101m, un jebk\u0101da laime un izaugsme nav iesp\u0113jama. Un, protams, m\u0113s jut\u012bsimies no\u017e\u0113lojam\u0101ki nek\u0101 jebkad, un \u0161\u012bs saj\u016btas atkal apstiprin\u0101s m\u016bsu \u201cdzi\u013co\u201d pasaules uzskatu; proti, ka visums ir bezgal\u012bgi tuk\u0161a, tum\u0161a un auksta, un bezcer\u012bga vieta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Galarezult\u0101ts ir depresija. Protams, depresijai ir ar\u012b citi c\u0113lo\u0146i, ta\u010du kop\u0113jais c\u0113lonis ir kombin\u0101cija: nesp\u0113t redz\u0113t da\u013cu no sevis un uzb\u016bv\u0113t sienu no negat\u012bv\u0101m dom\u0101m par \u0161o da\u013cu. T\u0101 pamat\u0101 ir uzskats, ka da\u013ca, kuru b\u016btu j\u0101mekl\u0113, neeksist\u0113.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101 dziedin\u0101\u0161an\u0101s<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja m\u0113s v\u0113lamies saredz\u0113t \u0161\u012bs dilemmas beigas, mums vispirms ir j\u0101iet iek\u0161ien\u0113 un j\u0101uzdod sev jaut\u0101jums: \u201cK\u0101du sevis da\u013cu es apspie\u017eu un atsakos atz\u012bt?\u201d J\u016bs varat piev\u0113rsties \u0161im jaut\u0101jumam, piem\u0113ram, sekojo\u0161\u0101 veid\u0101. Iedom\u0101jieties \u2013 j\u016bs esat v\u012brietis, un jums nav paveicies ar sieviet\u0113m, jums nav dz\u012bvesbiedres. Iesp\u0113jams, ka pafantaz\u0113t par \u0161\u0101du sievieti nav tik sare\u017e\u0123\u012bti; j\u016bs to varb\u016bt dar\u0101t diezgan bie\u017ei. J\u0101, t\u0101 ir tikai fant\u0101zija; ta\u010du t\u0101 ir j\u016bsu fant\u0101zija. Un tas noz\u012bm\u0113, ka \u0161\u012b sieviete jau ir j\u016bsos; sievi\u0161\u0137ais, par kuru j\u016bs fantaz\u0113jat, ir j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113. Ja \u0161is sievi\u0161\u0137ais sp\u0113ks j\u016bsos nedz\u012bvotu, j\u016bs nekad par to nefantaz\u0113tu. Jums nekad nevar\u0113tu b\u016bt fant\u0101zija par \u0161o skaisto, jut\u012bgo, emp\u0101tisko sievieti, kura vienm\u0113r saka tik sapr\u0101t\u012bgas, viedas lietas; kura piln\u012bb\u0101 saprot j\u016bs un kura vienm\u0113r ir tik m\u012blo\u0161a. Ko vi\u0146a jums saka? Uz br\u012bdi paklausieties vi\u0146u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Turiet \u0161o sievieti izt\u0113l\u0113 past\u0101v\u012bgi, pat tad, kad j\u016bs esat darb\u0101 vai, kad run\u0101jat ar citiem, vai, kad esat ar draugiem. K\u0101 \u0161\u012bs sieviete j\u016bs redz? Vai j\u016bs \u013caujat vi\u0146ai tur b\u016bt? Kas vi\u0146u dara laim\u012bgu? M\u0113\u0123iniet sajust, ko j\u016bt vi\u0146a. Pak\u0101peniski j\u016bs paman\u012bsiet, ka \u0161\u012bs sievietes j\u016btas ir ar\u012b j\u016bsu j\u016btas, t\u0101p\u0113c \u013caujiet t\u0101m b\u016bt. J\u016bs s\u0101ksiet just daudz piln\u012bg\u0101k un daudz bag\u0101t\u0101k. Vientul\u012bbas saj\u016bta b\u016bs maz\u0101k sp\u0113c\u012bga.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

J\u016bs s\u0101ksiet izstarot \u0161o pieaugu\u0161o bag\u0101t\u012bbu. J\u016bs b\u016bsiet citiem pievilc\u012bg\u0101ks; j\u016bs jut\u012bsiet, ka j\u016bs sievietes augst\u0101k v\u0113rt\u0113jat un lab\u0101k saprotat. K\u0101 v\u012brietis j\u016bs vairs neraudz\u012bsieties uz sieviet\u0113m k\u0101 uz d\u012bvain\u0101m rad\u012bb\u0101m no citas plan\u0113tas, bet k\u0101 uz t\u0101diem pa\u0161iem cilv\u0113kiem k\u0101 j\u016bs, ar t\u0101d\u0101m pa\u0161\u0101m bail\u0113m un t\u0101d\u0101m pa\u0161am \u0161aub\u0101m. V\u012brie\u0161iem, kuriem nav laba saikne ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo sievieti, bie\u017ei vien nav priek\u0161stata, cik trausla un jut\u012bga \u2013 k\u0101 cilv\u0113ks \u2013 sieviete paties\u012bb\u0101 ir. Patiesa z\u012bme, ka jums ir slikta saikne ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo sievieti, ir, ja jums ir gr\u016bti sieviet\u0113s saredz\u0113t cilv\u0113kus \u2013 cilv\u0113kus ar bail\u0113m, ba\u017e\u0101m, v\u0113lm\u0113m un sap\u0146iem. Milz\u012bg\u0101 nevienl\u012bdz\u012bba starp v\u012brie\u0161iem un sieviet\u0113m, kas joproj\u0101m ir daudz kur pasaul\u0113, past\u0101v tikai t\u0101d\u0113\u013c, ka v\u012brie\u0161i nesp\u0113j sievieti uzskat\u012bt par cilv\u0113ku. Iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101s sievietes izpratne pamaz\u0101m ved pie apk\u0101rt\u0113j\u0101s pasaules cit\u0101das uztveres: iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101 vienot\u012bba ir atz\u012bta un j\u016btama.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Protams, j\u016bs varat dar\u012bt to pa\u0161u, ja esat sieviete. Izt\u0113lojieties savu iek\u0161\u0113jo v\u012brieti. Padariet vi\u0146u par drosm\u012bgu, sp\u0113c\u012bgu bru\u0146inieku ar dzejisku un jut\u012bgu sirdi; par t\u0101du v\u012brieti, kur\u0161 at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bb\u0101 no daudziem v\u012brie\u0161iem j\u016bsu apk\u0101rtn\u0113 ir labi saist\u012bts ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo sievieti: vi\u0146as j\u016bt\u0101m. Un j\u016bs t\u016bl\u012bt saprotat, ka j\u016bs varat fantaz\u0113t par ide\u0101lu v\u012brieti, t\u0101p\u0113c ka \u0161is v\u012brietis ir j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113, vi\u0146\u0161 ir da\u013ca no j\u016bsu dv\u0113seles ener\u0123ijas. T\u0101 ir da\u013ca, kura nav at\u013cauta, jo j\u016bs esat pieradusi uzskat\u012bt, ka esat meitene un ka meitenei nav labi darboties v\u012bri\u0161\u0137\u0101 veid\u0101. Varb\u016bt j\u016bs sav\u0101 dz\u012bves gait\u0101 esat tic\u0113jusi, ka v\u012brie\u0161i ir slikti, vardarb\u012bgi un agres\u012bvi un ka viss, kas j\u016bsos ir v\u012bri\u0161\u0137s, ir j\u0101apspie\u017e. J\u016bs dom\u0101jat \u2013 teikt \u201cn\u0113\u201d, uzst\u0101d\u012bt robe\u017eas, iest\u0101ties par sevi \u2013 tas viss ir slikti; t\u0101d\u0113\u013c labi ir vienm\u0113r atdot sevi, b\u016bt pak\u013c\u0101v\u012bgai, teikt citiem \u201cj\u0101\u201d. Un, ja j\u016bs iest\u0101jaties par sevi un par\u0101d\u0101t savu v\u012bri\u0161\u0137o pusi, tad j\u016bs vienm\u0113r p\u0113c tam j\u016btaties vain\u012bga, it k\u0101 j\u016bs b\u016btu izpaudusi kaut ko nepareizu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sievi\u0161\u0137\u0101s ener\u0123ijas nosl\u0113pums ir \u2013 patie\u0161\u0101m var\u0113t teikt \u201cj\u0101\u201d otram cilv\u0113kam m\u012blest\u012bbas d\u0113\u013c. V\u012bri\u0161\u0137\u0101s ener\u0123ijas nosl\u0113pums ir \u2013 t\u0101s pa\u0161as m\u012blest\u012bbas d\u0113\u013c var\u0113t teikt \u201cj\u0101\u201d sev pa\u0161am.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uz br\u012bdi saj\u016btiet bru\u0146inieku no iek\u0161ienes. Vi\u0146\u0161 ir sp\u0113c\u012bgs, var noteikt savas robe\u017eas, past\u0101v\u0113t par sevi un teikt \u201cn\u0113\u201d, kad nepiecie\u0161ams. K\u0101 vi\u0146\u0161 to \u012bsten\u012bb\u0101 dara; k\u0101ds ir vi\u0146a nosl\u0113pums? Sievietes bie\u017ei dom\u0101, k\u0101 \u0161\u0101dai stingrai nost\u0101jai nepiecie\u0161ama ener\u0123ija, bet b\u016bt\u012bba nav tur. \u0160\u012bs \u012bpa\u0161\u012bbas ir dabiskas sekas sp\u0113jai pateikt \u201cj\u0101\u201d sev m\u012blo\u0161\u0101 veid\u0101. Br\u012bd\u012b, kad j\u016bs sak\u0101t \u201cj\u0101\u201d sev, j\u016bs izveidojat savas robe\u017eas dabisk\u0101 un ac\u012bmredzam\u0101 veid\u0101. Tad neprasa sp\u0113ku ar\u012b pateikt \u201cn\u0113\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Izmantojiet savas sievi\u0161\u0137\u0101s sp\u0113jas, lai piesl\u0113gtos bru\u0146iniekam un piln\u012bgi izjustu vi\u0146u no savas iek\u0161ienes. J\u016bs gandr\u012bz nekav\u0113joties atkl\u0101siet \u013coti dabisku sevis m\u012blest\u012bbu un pa\u0161cie\u0146u. Un no \u0161\u012bs sevis m\u012blest\u012bbas rodas v\u0113lme izpaust sevi, nost\u0101ties \u0101rpus\u0113: v\u0113lme kaut ko dar\u012bt. No \u0161\u012bs saj\u016btas, ka j\u016bs varat pateikt \u201cn\u0113\u201d liet\u0101m, kuras nav jums piem\u0113rotas, jums k\u013c\u016bst viegli un dabiski.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0101p\u0113c, k\u0101 sievieti, j\u016bs bie\u017ei ir tik viegli ievainot ar to, ko saka k\u0101ds cits? Parasti tas ir k\u0101ds mu\u013c\u0137\u012bgs koment\u0101rs, ar kuru ievainot nebija dom\u0101ts. Atbilde ir: m\u012blest\u012bbas pret sevi tr\u016bkums. M\u012blest\u012bbas pret sevi tr\u016bkums izraisa nep\u0101rtrauktas iek\u0161\u0113jas \u0161aubas, kuru d\u0113\u013c m\u0113s zaud\u0113jam l\u012bdzsvaru vismaz\u0101k\u0101s piez\u012bmes d\u0113\u013c. Savienojieties ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo v\u012brieti \u2013 savu m\u012blest\u012bbu pret sevi \u2013 un j\u016bs konstat\u0113siet, ka jums ir daudz viegl\u0101k saglab\u0101t l\u012bdzsvaru. Mu\u013c\u0137\u012bgi koment\u0101ri no citu puses neko nevar padar\u012bt past\u0101v\u012bgajai m\u012blest\u012bbas pl\u016bsmai, kuru jums dod labs savienojums ar v\u012bri\u0161\u0137o ener\u0123iju. Savu robe\u017eu uzst\u0101d\u012b\u0161ana, \u201cn\u0113\u201d teik\u0161ana, ja tas notiek aiz cie\u0146as un m\u012blest\u012bbas pret sevi, tad tiek pie\u0146emtas k\u0101 pa\u0161saprotamas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160aubas!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja m\u0113s j\u016btamies vientu\u013ci, m\u0113s v\u0113lamies b\u016bt kop\u0101 ar l\u012bdzcilv\u0113kiem. Tom\u0113r, ja m\u0113s gribam atrast \u0161o saikni, mums vispirms j\u0101m\u0101c\u0101s sevi redz\u0113t k\u0101 cilv\u0113kus. Un, t\u0101pat k\u0101 cilv\u0113kam ir lab\u0101 un kreis\u0101 puse, iek\u0161ien\u0113 vi\u0146am ir v\u012bri\u0161\u0137\u0101 puse un sievi\u0161\u0137\u0101 puse. Tikai tad, kad m\u0113s \u013caujam ab\u0101m pus\u0113m izpausties piln\u012bgi, mums beidzas vientul\u012bba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0101 m\u0113s to dar\u0101m? M\u0113s s\u0101kam ar sav\u0101m \u0161aub\u0101m. Kam\u0113r m\u0113s tic\u0113sim, ka laime un viengabalain\u012bba ir neiesp\u0113jamas, m\u0113s joproj\u0101m b\u016bsim nelaim\u012bgi. Tikai tad, kad m\u0113s ap\u0161aub\u012bsim \u0161o tic\u012bbu, kura dara m\u016bs nelaim\u012bgus, m\u0113s atkl\u0101simies p\u0101rmai\u0146\u0101m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

J\u016bs varat veikt vienk\u0101r\u0161u vizualiz\u0101ciju. Izt\u0113lojieties, ka virs j\u016bsu galvas mirdz skaista zvaigzne: bezgal\u012bgas, beznosac\u012bjuma m\u012blest\u012bbas avots. \u0160\u012b zvaigzne ir j\u016bsu dv\u0113sele: m\u016b\u017e\u012bg\u0101, nep\u0101rtraukt\u0101 j\u016bsu da\u013ca. \u0160\u012bs zvaigznes gaisma nolai\u017eas j\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113 un, kad tas noticis, \u0161\u012b gaisma sadal\u0101s. Da\u013ca no gaismas k\u013c\u016bst par sievieti, un vi\u0146a saka: \u201cEs m\u012blu dz\u012bvi ap mani: visus cilv\u0113kus, dz\u012bvniekus, augus un pa\u0161u Zemi.\u201d Otra gaismas da\u013ca k\u013c\u016bst par v\u012brieti, un vi\u0146\u0161 saka: \u201cEs m\u012blu sevi, un \u0161\u012b m\u012blest\u012bba, kuru es pret sevi j\u016btu, dod man sp\u0113ku un pa\u0161cie\u0146u; dod man v\u0113lmi piedz\u012bvot un baud\u012bt dz\u012bvi.\u201d Izrun\u0101jiet \u0161os apgalvojumus bals\u012b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Izt\u0113lojieties, ka \u0161ie v\u012brietis un sieviete kop\u012bgi ce\u013co. V\u012brietis mekl\u0113 jaunus piedz\u012bvojumus, jaunas izpausmes jomas. Visur, kur vi\u0146\u0161 iet, vi\u0146\u0161 satiek jaunus cilv\u0113kus un vis\u0101da veida cit\u0101das b\u016bt\u012bbas, da\u017ereiz br\u012bnumainas dz\u012bv\u012bbas formas, t\u0101p\u0113c sievietes m\u012blest\u012bba var pl\u016bst bezgal\u012bgi. Kop\u0101 vi\u0146i iet pa dz\u012bvi. Vienu soli sper v\u012bri\u0161\u0137\u0101 puse, m\u012blest\u012bba uz sevi, kad j\u016bs sev \u013caujat jebko: jaunas pieredzes, piedz\u012bvojumus un tik\u0161an\u0101s. Otru soli sper sievi\u0161\u0137\u0101 puse, kad j\u016bsu m\u012blest\u012bba s\u0101k pl\u016bst uz jauno apk\u0101rtni un visu, kas tur atrodas: citi cilv\u0113ki, nepaz\u012bstamas zemes, jauna pasaule.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kad j\u016bs veiksiet \u0161o vingrin\u0101jumu, j\u016bs, bez \u0161aub\u0101m, sajut\u012bsiet vis\u0101da veida pretest\u012bbu. Tie ir j\u016bsu vecie uzskati, t\u0101p\u0113c labi tos apl\u016bkojiet. K\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs esat tik p\u0101rliecin\u0101ti par tiem? Cik tie paties\u012bb\u0101 ir objekt\u012bvi? K\u0101 \u0161ie uzskati var jums pal\u012bdz\u0113t, ja j\u016bs esat tik nelaim\u012bgi? Ja j\u016bs r\u016bp\u012bgi p\u0101rbaud\u012bsiet \u0161os uzskatus, j\u016bs konstat\u0113siet, ka aiz tiem st\u0101v viens s\u0101kuma c\u0113lonis: m\u012blest\u012bbas nolieg\u0161ana<\/em>. M\u0113s esam pie\u0146\u0113mu\u0161i idejas no m\u016bsu kult\u016bras, ka m\u012blest\u012bba ir il\u016bzija, sevis nolieg\u0161ana, kura balst\u0101s un savt\u012bgiem biolo\u0123iskiem instinktiem; piem\u0113ram, ka j\u016bs savus b\u0113rnus un savu partneri m\u012blat tikai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka j\u016bsu g\u0113ni grib vairoties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0113s nezin\u0101m, k\u0101 atomi ir salikti kop\u0101; m\u0113s nezin\u0101m, k\u0101 darbojas visums; m\u0113s nezin\u0101m, k\u0101 ir uzb\u016bv\u0113ta cilv\u0113ka b\u016btne. Ja, k\u0101 uzskata da\u017ei zin\u0101tnieki, viss ir reduc\u0113jams uz matem\u0101tisku formulu kopumu \u2013 teoriju, kas aptver visu \u2013 tad visum\u0101 nav vietas m\u012blest\u012bbai, k\u0101 ar\u012b subjekt\u012bvai, iek\u0161\u0113jai pieredzei. Nav vietas cilv\u0113kam k\u0101 apzino\u0161ai dz\u012bvai b\u016btnei. T\u0101d\u0101 pasaules skat\u012bjum\u0101 cilv\u0113ki ir ne vair\u0101k k\u0101 nej\u016bt\u012bgi roboti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cilv\u0113kiem, kuri ir gar\u012bgi veseli, piem\u012bt \u0161aubas. \u0160aubas ir cilv\u0113ciskas, bet izskat\u0101s, ka cilv\u0113kiem bie\u017ei ir dar\u012b\u0161ana ar \u0161aub\u0101m, kuras nav lo\u0123iskas. Iedom\u0101jieties sekojo\u0161o: k\u0101ds ir \u013coti nabadz\u012bgs, un dz\u012bvo nolietot\u0101 vagoni\u0146\u0101. Vi\u0146am ir daudz r\u016bpju, un pat tr\u016bkst naudas, lai nopirktu p\u0101rtiku. Bet vagoni\u0146\u0101 ir veca l\u0101de, kura ir pieder\u0113jusi t\u0101liem sen\u010diem. St\u0101sts ir par to, ka \u0161is t\u0101lais radinieks reiz atrada zeltu un pasl\u0113pa \u0161aj\u0101 l\u0101d\u0113. Varb\u016bt \u0161is st\u0101sts ir patiess, varb\u016bt n\u0113. Kas ir lo\u0123iski? 1) St\u0101sts var b\u016bt patiess, t\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146am ir j\u0113ga p\u0101rmekl\u0113t l\u0101di, un ir iesp\u0113jams, ka visas vi\u0146a r\u016bpes beigsies; vai 2) st\u0101sts var neb\u016bt patiess, t\u0101p\u0113c ir lo\u0123iski, ka vi\u0146\u0161 neskat\u0101s l\u0101d\u0113 aiz t\u012bras p\u0101rliec\u012bbas, ka vi\u0146a probl\u0113mas turpin\u0101sies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Protams, pirm\u0101 pieeja ir lo\u0123iska. Ja rodas \u0161aubas, ir racion\u0101li dot sev pozit\u012bvu iesp\u0113ju. Tom\u0113r praks\u0113 daudzi cilv\u0113ki t\u0101 nedara. Vi\u0146i savu \u0161aubu d\u0113\u013c r\u012bkojas nelo\u0123iski un nedod pozit\u012bvajam iesp\u0113ju: vi\u0146i neiel\u016bkojas l\u0101d\u0113. \u0160aubas ir pirmais, kas j\u0101dziedina, bet \u0161\u012bs \u0161aubas var ar\u012b m\u016bs attur\u0113t no faktiskas dziedin\u0101\u0161an\u0101s. T\u0101p\u0113c dodiet \u0161\u012bm \u0161aub\u0101m lo\u0123isku pamatotu iesp\u0113ju: iel\u016bkojieties l\u0101d\u0113. \u0160aub\u012bties ir norm\u0101li, bet dodiet iesp\u0113ju pozit\u012bvajam, dodiet iesp\u0113ju m\u012blest\u012bbai, dodiet iesp\u0113ju sev.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Angliski tulkoju\u0161i Marija Baesa un Franks Tehans<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a9 Gerits Gilens<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tulkoja J\u0101nis Oppe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Gerits Gilens Vientul\u012bba ir viena no m\u016bsu laika liel\u0101kaj\u0101m probl\u0113m\u0101m. Daudzi cilv\u0113ki j\u016btas nesaprasti un citu neatz\u012bti. Un ne tikai gados veci cilv\u0113ki; pat cilv\u0113ki, kuriem ir \u0123imene un kuri ir aiz\u0146emti ar karjeru, bie\u017ei j\u016btas vientu\u013ci. Neskatoties uz vis\u0101m aktivit\u0101t\u0113m ap mums, m\u016bsu iek\u0161ien\u0113 var b\u016bt kaut kas, kas \u0161\u0137iet neredzams. M\u016bsu b\u016btiska…<\/p>\n

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